Tell Them is very proud to present Dr. Lilly Filler of Columbia, South Carolina. Dr. Filler is the founder and a practicing member of Women Physicians Associates, Ob/Gyn in Columbia. She is a Past President of the Columbia Medical Society, a Former Chief of Staff of Palmetto Richland Hospital. Dr. Filler is also a former Board Member of Planned Parenthood in Columbia. Watch as she speaks about the importance of accepting the medical reality of the situation (above) and as she invites you to join the Virtual March (below).
Tags: Columbia, Comprehensive Sex Ed, Planned Parenthood, Reproductive Health, Sexual Health, TTWomen, Unintended Pregnancy, Virtual March, Youth
Wow!! I love that quote about, “telling children to wear a seat belt, does not promote fast driving, it says that we will protect you in the terrible event that you could get hurt.” What a strong woman!!!!! LOVE IT!
I like how she’s standing up and I think she makes a valid point. Just because we give women birth control doesn’t mean they will have sex.
Wonderful and right to the point!
Dr. Filler makes a well-defined case in support of access to birth control for young people in South Carolina. We all know that those girls most at risk — many in more rural, impoverished areas — lack both the understanding of birth control and how they can access it. They need someone to let them know where and how they can get help. Underage pregnancy is something we can address in our state, if we’ll only come together. Let’s allow the voice of reason be heard.
I can not believe that I actually have lived to see the day when someone in South Carolina uses these words:
“Choices have to be made according to the science.”
Science. It works.
I was a young woman who chose to have sex before marriage, and used contraception. I have had less than 5 partners in my life, and no unintended pregnancies. All of this is because my parents made sure to give me the comprehensive sex education that the schools were not.
I wish all of my peers had that opportunity.
With the teen pregnancy rate spiking again after several years of declines, it is ever more important that today’s youth, both young women and young men, be made aware of the consequences of pre-marital sex, and the ways in which these consequences can be prevented.
One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If we continue to not educate and promote the unrealistic expectation of abstinence we are on a one way collision course for disaster. The children and young people of our state deserve better. Fact: Teenagers are having sex, lots of it. It is obvious that our current methodology is failing. We would be crazy to continue to subscribe to such ignorant and antiquated moral ideals as abstinence as a means of prevention. This is not about Jesus, it’s about solving a problem through pro-active solutions. Bravo Dr. Filler and the other fine women who are stepping up to speak out for those who cannot speak for themselves. You make me proud to be a woman.
“Churchianity” or any fear shame/guilt based educational programs as a tribal not science based versus “opus” modern, open dialog is a neglect-thus simply a harm.
Educated choice is a class act choice.
None evolutionary, none progressive manipulations never allowed masses to benefit. Education not promoted in and collaboration where science and spirituality is not in healthy marriage, as result, hurts emotionally manipulated, hypnotized “flock”, mothers and daughters, children that are born not by educated choice yet even by painful chance and surprise.
Initially always pioneers and brave women, thirsty for sovereign life style and comprehensive understanding made the difference in any grass root movement. Education about sexual aspects of humanity will bring elegance and appreciation to a gift and dignity of all involved.
“Effective sex education also provides young people with an opportunity to explore the reasons why people have sex, and to think about how it involves emotions, respect for one self and other people and their feelings, decisions and bodies. Young people should have the chance to explore gender differences and how ethnicity and sexuality can influence people’s feelings and options.16 17 They should be able to decide for themselves what the positive qualities of relationships are. It is important that they understand how bullying, stereotyping, abuse and exploitation can negatively influence relationships.”I found it in one of elaborations-completely adds to importance to family planning education and contraception education.
As a middle school teacher, I use a driving metaphor also, to explain to parents of tweens & teens that they *should* be monitoring their children’s texting, online chatting, email, Facebook, etc., instead of worrying that they’re invading their kids’ privacy…
“You’d never allow your children to learn to drive without your riding shotgun for a while ~ why would you assume they will use 2.0 tools perfectly at age 10 without supervision?”
I love Dr. Filler’s reminder to cut out the emotion. “Get in there, parents, and have the conversations that kids need so much …”
At last! A rational, wise, and loving approach to birth control. The facts are:
most churches and public schools have failed in preventing teen pregnancy.
Teenagers have sex and lots of it. Give them a way to prevent a pregnancy.
There is nothing about birth control that increases the occurrence of teen’s having sex. Of course you don’t want your teenager having sex but they probably will. Why not be rational and wise, provide birth control for your son and daughter.
Making better choices based on knowledge is freedom. Freedom to choose abstinence as a method of birth control but not excluding other methods.Girls and boys are going to have sex and it seems to me that providing appropriate birth control for these young people should be a pro life position. Thank you Dr. Filler for your directness, warmth and your willingness to tell it like it is.
We owe our children the best possible opportunities for success. We owe them accurate knowledge of their own bodies. An unwanted teenage pregnancy is a huge impediment to a bright future. Dr. Filler’s analogy to the seatbelt is perfect.
“to wear a seatbelt does not promote fast driving” “we got to cut out the emotion” For a legislature that is so man like, it is ironic that the men “representing” us are so emotional. Get off it, boys. Like Dr. Filler said, daughters are going to have sex whether we want them to or not, so why don’t we equip them with the knowledge, self-esteem and over all equipment that allows them to be healthy and responsible in the choices they are making.